Spanking should never be about actual punishment for real world situations, only what is formerly agreed upon. In my experience: a guy who doesn’t respect your boundaries here won’t respect them down the line. I was glad to read that your bf finally got it and you enjoy this new aspect of your relationship. Growing up, i didn’t get spanked, i got beaten. I didn’t even know what bdsm was, and didn’t learn/realize wtf he was doing until 10 years later. I have no idea why this was in my feed, but communication is key. All things we had talked about dozens of times before.
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He thinks that since you let him spank you, you’re totally into everything he’s been doing and have magically consented to everything that hasn’t been discussed yet (a really worrying assumption). Its easier this way, believe me. That’s what safe words and mutually agreed boundaries achieve.